It Is What It Is, Until It Changes

“You will always have the poor among you …” (see John 12:8a)

This devotional comes from my book, Dealing With Difficult People: 31 Empowering Christian Devotionals For Those Dealing With Negative, Manipulative, or Mean People. (Click here to see the book or go to

In this text, Jesus declares that there will always be poor people among at least His disciples, if not among people for generations to come. This is surely not what God desires.

Nor is it to discourage anti-poverty work. It is simply a recognition that it is what it is, until it changes.

In like manner, there are people who are difficult to deal with. And they are going to remain difficult to deal with, until they change.

Instead of investing your time and energy into trying to make someone change, you would be better off accepting the reality that is before you and working on being the best you that you can be. Make this the day of accepting reality, instead of fighting against it.


1. Think about how you can love someone so much or you can want a person to change so badly that it is challenging to accept that they will be who they are until they change. Write down a name or two that comes to mind.

2. On a scale of one to five, where five means you are doing great and no further action is needed, how would you grade your living by the ideal of this devotional? If your grade is under four, what are you going to do to improve in this area?


Great and awesome God, the God who accepts the reality of both poverty and difficult people, it is to You that I pray. Thank You for accepting me.

I confess that sometimes I find it challenging to accept that the people that I love and have to interact with are difficult and beyond my ability to control. Help me to grow in this area. In Jesus’ name, amen.

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